I always use a regular old tubing bender for the right size, and a regular old double flair kit for the right size. I tend to try not to use my hands simply because it usually doesnt look as good when I try and do that, haha.
Generally speaking (if you read the direction with some kits), the amount of tube sticking out of the flair bar should be equal to the thickness of the "base" if the flair die, if that makes sense. Has worked perfect for me many times. Also, try filing the end flat, chamfering the outside edge, then deburring it. Making it nice and flat with a file makes a big difference, as well as the chamfer.
~T.J.