Obviously the best way to do this is to pull it down and replace the crush sleeve...but it can be done (if your careful) without doing so...as stated before, check the preload using an inch pound torque wrench (dial type), change the flange, then locktite the threads of the nut, and carefully tighten the nut a little bit at a time until you have obtained the proper preload for used bearings (5-10 inch pounds IIRC), then stake the nut and let the locktite cure before putting back in service...I would measure rolling torque before pulling the nut. After installing the new seal. I would run the nut down tight. Check rolling torque again. Your looking for 5-10lbs more rolling torque. Easiest with an Inch pound torque wrench
Mark the nut to the pinion head(I use a sharpie). remove the nut and replace the flange. Tighten the nut till your marks line up. thats the only way to know without removing the carrier and checking your bearing preload before and after the flange change.
Its tough to crush the sleeve any more anyways, it will just strip the nut out if you go to tight!:;
You won't crush the sleeve but you will over preload the bearings and cause failure. I have seen it a number of times....