patooyee
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I need some advice.
I have an employee who is one of the best I've ever had. She is 17, highly intelligent, gets great grades in school, is the favorite of all my customers, always happy, hard working and extremely reliable. At risk of sounding like a creepy old man, you would have to be a homo to not recognize how beautiful she is also. As a worker she is every employer's dream and she has worked with us for a long time so needless to say, everyone here cares about her including me. The thing is, she seems to be making some terrible choices in her personal life right now and she has no parents around to provide any sort of discipline or guidance. She's recently broke up with her boyfriend who was her age but doing a long stint in jail for armed robbery to move in with a 31-year-old man who provides her with free rent and a shitty car. (I don't even care to think about what she does to repay him, but suffice it to say that she felt the need to break up with her boyfriend to do so.)
From a professional standpoint, I should not get involved, I know this. But on a personal level I have come to think of this girl as sort of my daughter or little sister over time. I don't know that if I was making stupid decisions like that at her age if I would have heeded anyone else's advice if I had had it. But she has no one to give her that advice ... her mother is a crack whore who she hasn't spoken to in years and her father is a grown man who never grew up ... he's just always out of the house, doesn't care what she does, playing around with his own girlfriends and too busy to take notice of his daughter. He comes into the store while she is working to say hi to her for about 2 mins/week and that si the extent of their interaction.
So what do I do? Do I stand back and watch the train wreck or do I sit her down and tell her what a stupid bitch she is? I've had employees who I care about in the past make stupid decisions, but they've always been old enough to know better and to deal with the repurcussions. This girl is still young and this kind of **** can affect the rest of her life. She has so much promise that it woudl be a shame to see it all go away because she gets knocked up by a dude who is older than her father ...
J. J.
I have an employee who is one of the best I've ever had. She is 17, highly intelligent, gets great grades in school, is the favorite of all my customers, always happy, hard working and extremely reliable. At risk of sounding like a creepy old man, you would have to be a homo to not recognize how beautiful she is also. As a worker she is every employer's dream and she has worked with us for a long time so needless to say, everyone here cares about her including me. The thing is, she seems to be making some terrible choices in her personal life right now and she has no parents around to provide any sort of discipline or guidance. She's recently broke up with her boyfriend who was her age but doing a long stint in jail for armed robbery to move in with a 31-year-old man who provides her with free rent and a shitty car. (I don't even care to think about what she does to repay him, but suffice it to say that she felt the need to break up with her boyfriend to do so.)
From a professional standpoint, I should not get involved, I know this. But on a personal level I have come to think of this girl as sort of my daughter or little sister over time. I don't know that if I was making stupid decisions like that at her age if I would have heeded anyone else's advice if I had had it. But she has no one to give her that advice ... her mother is a crack whore who she hasn't spoken to in years and her father is a grown man who never grew up ... he's just always out of the house, doesn't care what she does, playing around with his own girlfriends and too busy to take notice of his daughter. He comes into the store while she is working to say hi to her for about 2 mins/week and that si the extent of their interaction.
So what do I do? Do I stand back and watch the train wreck or do I sit her down and tell her what a stupid bitch she is? I've had employees who I care about in the past make stupid decisions, but they've always been old enough to know better and to deal with the repurcussions. This girl is still young and this kind of **** can affect the rest of her life. She has so much promise that it woudl be a shame to see it all go away because she gets knocked up by a dude who is older than her father ...
J. J.